Monday, November 7, 2011

Holly Jackson: The Difference a Busty Heroine Makes

Today our fabulous guest blogger Holly, from The Full Figure Chest, tells us about the first time she met a Busty Heroine who made her realize she wasn't alone. At Butterfly Collection we know that you can only feel great in your bras when you accept and love your figure and that's why we share stories like this with you in our blog and newsletter.

Chicken Salad vs Cleavage
"My first job was in a coffee shop as a trainee barista. I mostly made chicken salad sandwiches for socialite ladies and watched the other baristas make cups of coffee. The only virtue of the job was that I liked my boss a lot. She was a cute redhead in her mid-20's named Mary, and she was the first women I'd known who had breasts as big as mine. One day while looking for something to open the chicken salad jar with, she taught me a major life lesson.

"You've got the tools right here!", she exclaimed as she shoved the giant jar of chicken salad down into her cleavage and twisted the lid off. At that moment, she became my first female hero.

Believing in Ourselves
I grew up in a house where curves weren't encouraged. I don't think my mother meant it to be that way, but like many sets of parents, mine tended to equate having breasts with being fat. My mother is curvy herself, but spends most of her time draping herself in voluminous clothes to disguise that fact. I spent most of my teenage years being forced into minimizer bras, which just made me angry and uncomfortable. When I got older and moved far away, my mother began to offer to buy me entire new fancy wardrobes if I could just weigh in under 130 pounds on her scale. It never happened.

You have to love you no matter what anyone else says
So often when we're younger (or even when we're older), full-busted women are taught that their breasts are a handicap they have to bear in life. We worry about showing a tiny bit of cleavage at the office, or whether a tank top looks sexy or obscene on us. We see these as our problems, as things that make us less than other women, when really we just haven't seen examples of full-busted women who are at home in their own bodies. 
Our gorgeous model Vyna does a lot to promote self esteem in native communities
A Sense of Humour Helps
I've heard lots of different versions of my teenage years from other full-busted and plus size women, so I know my experience isn't unique. That's part of why I'm so passionate about great full-busted lingerie: a great bra makes you see yourself in a whole new light. Hopefully, that shift in perception can carry over to other areas of your life as well. Shifting your perception doesn't mean you have to love being full-busted all the time. I'm still embarrassed that I can't zip up my favorite high-waisted skirt because I can't see my waist in a profile view, or that I frequently knock things over because my breasts aren't where I expect them to be. But it doesn't mean I hate my breasts, or my body.

Because hey, I can open a jar better than any other woman I know."

Do you remember the first woman you met who made you realize that being a busty woman was pretty great!? xx

Holly Jackson is a professional lingerie copywriter and columnist.  She blogs and works at The Full Figured Chest

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